 In this
article, I will outline key points my fellow hospice team members and I
have observed in our day to day work.. I have worked over 12 years as a
Spiritual Counselor in Hospice Care. Each person teaches me something,
though it is I who is supposed to minister to them in the final moments.
For my colleagues and I, working in hospice is an ongoing challenge and
learning experience, that presents us with learning of the deepest kind -
on a soul level. In this article, I share with you the perspectives of my
colleagues and myself, at a Hospice Center in Northern, IN (USA). We work
together as a team and here are some of the insights from my colleagues.
Hospice is not a place. It is a concept of care. Hospice staff go to
people's homes and extend care for the mind, body, and soul. Much of our
work is to free people of physical pain, so a patient can be attentive to
living until he/she dies. This is a time when many patients reflect on
their life. This integration occurs naturally and is deeply embedded in
the psyche/soul of an individual.
Much of the work we do at the end of life is transitional. We are
supporting a dying patient as he/she moves into becoming more soul than
body. It is a work that challenges and changes anyone who is touched by a
person whom I like to say is "awakening into their most authentic self."
Our Hospice President wanted me to remind doctors of the need to have
appropriate points of referral to Hospice Care. Early referrals enable all
the services of Hospice care to become established and integrate holistic
care. In addition to physicians, hospice centers are comprised of
volunteers, social workers, nurses, bereavement counselors, and spiritual
counselors who work to establish care, creating the opportunity for
patients and families to share their deepest concerns.
My co-workers in the social work department wanted me to share the
importance of good listening. The patient is dying to everything he or she
has ever known.. As he or she begins to die, they become very reflective,
and may want to share their reflections with their caregivers.
Through these reflections, a patient gives meaning to their life. When we
listen to a patient share their story, we are being invited into their
soul. The tears that surface are symbols of love a person acknowledges and
encountered during the course of his or her life.
My colleagues in Nursing wanted me to remind healthcare professionals to
be liberal with medications for pain relief. It is vital to give a patient
enough medication to keep him or her from being in pain. Hospice Nurses
gauge this daily in their patients. The doctor/nurse team in palliative
care is so important that one cannot underestimate the cooperation and
good communication needed between health care team members to do what's in
the best interest of the patient.
When a patient's pain is under control, the ability to focus on living
creates hope in the midst of dying. This capacity to have quality of life
in the midst of dying gives the patient a sense of control that disease
takes away. Our ability to create this quality of life for a dying patient
is a wonderful use of our medical capacities in order to bring healing
comfort to those who need it.
The Bereavement Counselors on my team wanted to share with medical
professionals the importance of taking time to understand and comfort
family members, especially those who are care givers of the terminally
ill. It is vital to the bereavement process that doctors and nurses take
time to share with the caregivers that their loved one is dying.
Watch out for technical medical language - or jargon - when you speak with
family members. It is not always understood, and in fact, has a way of
blocking a sense of personal closeness that family members need, in order
to fully participate in what their loved one is facing.
Intellectual understanding of a patient's prognosis is important. In
addition, a family member also needs to know that their loved one is
personally cared for until he/she dies. Here, we enter into a realm of
care that transcends the body. This is where we care for the souls of all
the family members who are involved in a patient's care. The way we care
for the family system of a patient's life during this point can promote or
hinder the bereavement process.
My fellow Spiritual Counselor and I believes that our ability to be open
to a patient's personal faith is what leads to a sense of peace beyond
death. Earlier I talked about the deepening awareness of soul, that dying
people often experience. In addition, many of our patient's have religious
thoughts of God, as he or she understands God.
A person's capacity to believe in a higher power that is beyond themselves
is a vital part of the dying process. Here, a patient moves through merely
what he or she has been taught about their Creator to a more intimate and
direct experience of what is beyond concepts, labels, and formal religion.
Dying people have much to teach us about living. For many persons, facing
the end of their life might be the first time they have confronted this
topic. For others, it may be something they have thought about
intellectually, but now have to confront it through experience. Regardless
of what path people have taken to reach this point, for most every one,
endings become a time for spiritual awareness.
My first Hospice patient taught me something I will never forget. She
wanted me to sit in silence with her and pray meditatively. Our time
together was filled with space: space to feel eternity reach through the
dying experience and surround our inner selves with peace. This gave far
more meaning beyond anything she or I could have ever comprehended in
purely intellectual terms about dying.
Even to this day, I remember her words: "What matters in life IS NOT
matter." It was her way of telling me that there is more to life than what
we see and touch. And as she neared the end of her life, it was the inner,
spiritual aspect of life that was taking on a life of its own.
Regardless of your philosophy, if you are a health care provider who is
dealing with the terminally ill, it becomes important to respect the idea
of soul, even if you do not believe in it yourself. By soul, I do not mean
something specific to a particular religion. I mean, rather, an awareness
that can be experienced among persons of all paths and religions.
As professionals who care for those who are dying, it is vital we remember
we are caring for a person's soul and their body.
As part of the process of turning towards non-material things, a person
begins to let go of the various roles he/she carried out in life. At such
a time, the need to find meaning and hope beyond this existence becomes
vital to the well being of a patient who is dying. As caregivers, the need
to look through our eyes and no longer with them enables us to view our
patients as more than a disease in dis-ease. It is here we connect with
them soul to soul and forge an eternal relationship with them that will
never die.
As a dying patient begins to let go of their personality, an identity with
something within him/her begins to emerge. This emergence is a calm
awareness that has been with him/her their whole life. It is the part of
us not attached to the experiences of the world. It is an identity with an
aspect of us that transcends even death itself. In some ways, this
perspective on dying enables the one who is dying to awaken into eternal
life.
There are many definitions of the word soul. But most everyone agrees that
it refers to something unseen, and yet we know exists. Inside us is a
landscape of the soul. It is the part of us that knows without a doubt
that an experience is true without having a tangible experience of it.
This part of us guides us through some of life's most difficult
circumstances. It gives us hope beyond our present circumstances
transcending us from self-centered awareness to life-centered awareness.
This part of us is the same part a dying person begins to identify with at
the end of their life giving them a sense of peace beyond anything he/she
has been able to conceive to this point in life.
As the dying person makes their journey towards his or her end, and
beyond, he or she is engaging in one of life's most sacred journey. As the
spiritual aspects of a person unfold along this journey, it becomes a
chance for others to learn from them. As a health care provider, you are
in a unique position, not only to comfort people as they make this final
journey, but to also learn from and be deepened by your patients.
The spiritual awareness that can develop within you as a result, of the
peace that grows in a dying person can be a lesson that you carry with
you, and share not only with other hospice patients, but all of your
patients, family and friends.
Samuel Oliver is the author of, "What the Dying Teach Us: Lessons on
Living". To purchase his book on Amazon go
HERE.For more information on this author;
http://www.soulandspirit.org/
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